Self Care for Couples – Spring Special!

Self Care for Couples - Spring Special!

2-1-18 through 3-31-18

Would you like to create real and lasting closeness with your partner/s? Have you struggled with communication and feeling like your needs are met? Is passive aggression a language you and your partner are speaking?

Spend two hours with Madam C, life and alternative relationship coach,  and learn how to connect with the one you love in a truly deep and meaningful way!

Self Care for Couples includes:

  • One 2-hour session for couples or polyamory pods (up to three people) for just $199! (Save over $100 off the usual session price)
  • Develop a Self Care Plan for your relationship
  • Discover your emotional and physical needs and learn to communicate them openly
  • Mindfulness strategies for enhancing quality time
  • NLP techniques for creating a tighter bond
  • Access to Madam C's resource library
  • 15% off additional session packages!

 

Book Now!

Offer Code: SpringCouple

Offer Restrictions

Session must be requested by midnight EST 3/31/2018. Session must be scheduled and executed by 4/15/2018. Limit one session per couple/pod. Offer restricted to groups of 3 or less with all individuals being 18 years of age or older. 

 

 

Feet: An Interactive Class, 2/13 @ 6:30 PM

 

Join Madam C at Fallout on February 13th for an interactive educational experience all about feet! Learn about foot, shoe, and stocking worship and fetishes in their varied forms and participate in a group foot massage demo!

Date: February 13th, 2018

Time: 6:30 PM

Place: Fallout, 117 N 18th St. Richmond, VA

Cost: Free! Madam C will be accepting donations for her time.

Can't make it but interested in exploring your love of feet? Contact Madam C today!

The Femdom Happy Hour 12/10, Richmond, Virginia

Madam C welcomes all female-identifying tops, sadists, Dom/mes, and more to network, socialize, and spend time with friends on January 10th, 2018 @ 5 PM!

Enjoy cocktails or mocktails at Can Can Brasserie, a Parisian-style steak frites eatery in a classic bistro setting in the heart of Carytown, Richmond.

This rotating social hour happens once monthly to promote kinship between strong, dominant women in the BDSM community and allow a space for sharing and support alike.

Sex & Sensuality Self Care Challenge – Ring in The New Year!

New Year- new connection with yourself!

So far I've asked you to:

  • Fake it until you make it by:

    • Walking around naked
    • For each negative thought about yourself, listing three things you like about your body and mind
    • Complimenting yourself!
    • Using music to help you feel powerful and sexy
  • Own your body by:

    • Making self care a daily part of your life
    • Taking ownership of your emotions, actions, and needs
    • Loving your flaws AND your fierceness
    • Answering some tough questions about what you need
  • Touch your body by:

    • Masturbating to become more comfortable with your body, release yummy happiness chemicals, and help you feel sexier!
    • Getting in touch with your body through a body scan meditation
    • Massaging your body
    • Engaging the senses with favourite tastes, textures, sounds, sights, and smells!
    • Asking yourself how trying these things affected the way you touch yourself

New Year, New Sensual You! (15 Tasks!)

To prepare for 2018, and embracing a new and more sensual you... here are are daily tasks to carry you into the New Year! Each task builds on the next, so if you miss a day, just make it up the next!

12/27 12/28 12/29 12/30 12/31
Thank your body for being sexy and for serving you every day! Your body works hard. Thanking it every day reminds you how valuable it is! Spend 10 minutes touching your own skin. Try some self massage, a body oil or lotion, or soft caresses!

 

Eat something sexy & nutritious. Try dark chocolate, avocado, oysters, a peach, ripe berries, honey, almonds or something spicy!

 

 

Ground your body by bathing mindfully. Take a shower or bath and focus on how the water sounds and feels. Up the sexy by turning out the lights!

 

 

Wear something that makes you feel powerful and seductive while you toast the new year with Prosecco, Sparkling Cider, or Champagne! Dress up EVEN IF YOU ARE STAYING HOME NYE!

 

 

 

 

1/1 1/2 1/3 1/4 1/5
Wear your favourite comfortable clothes and try this relaxing meditation to build your confidence! (By Great Meditation) Release! Masturbate, have a good cry, exercise, play a video game, or dance! Do something to release energy! Wear sexy underwear. Don't have some? Buy some!- Or window shop and imagine yourself wearing it!

 

 

Spend 5 minutes looking in the mirror at your body and telling yourself what you LOVE about yourself.

 

 

Hug a friend or partner for at least 90 seconds. This releases oxytocin that helps you feel calm. Don't like touch? No problem! Spend 5 minutes looking at a picture of someone you love deeply or petting a beloved pet!

 

1/6 1/7 1/8 1/9 1/10
Look over your answers to the questions from Day 5. Have any of your answers changed? Can you answer those "I don't knows" now? 

 

Repeat Day 8 of the challenge and touch your body, do a body scan meditation, and/or indulge your senses! 

 

Challenge negative thoughts about yourself and your body. Check out this article from Greatist.com about what negative thoughts are and how to squash them with mindfulness! 

 

Commit to daily self care! Here are 45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul from tinybuddha.com! 

 

 

 

Keep it going! Being kind, loving, and positive about yourself and your body is something that takes practice! Self care takes practice! Even masturbation takes practice! I challenge you to make 2018 your most sensual year yet! Have new experiences and delight your senses whenever possible! Need help with this? Contact me today! 

 

 

Sex & Sensuality Self Care Challenge – Day 8

Touch your body.

On Day 5, I talked about owning your body and encouraged you to do a self-check-in with some questions.  We are going to add to those as this challenge continues!

Today's focus? Touch. Specifically, touching yourself. Yes, like that... but also not like that.

Why is masturbation important for self care?

Masturbation isn't for everyone. It is important to make space for everyone on the sexuality spectrum from asexual and beyond. Masturbation doesn't have to be linked to sex, however. It is merely a series of steps we take to experience a form of physical release... a release of warm, happy chemicals in the body. Adding masturbation to your self care routine can have the following benefits:

  • You become more comfortable with your own body
  • Regular release of dopamine and oxytocin in the body literally lifts your mood
  • These same chemicals can combat stress, pain, and restlessness/sleeplessness
  • Doing sexy things can help you feel sexier. Feeling sexy is really just feeling confident in yourself and in your skin!

But before you masturbate...

It is also important to know your body without the pressure of release or orgasms. This is something that we don't all spend time on daily. When was the last time you listened to your body? When was the last time you massaged your body? When was the last time you truly felt your body for no other purpose than just to feel?

Touching our bodies sensually means to embrace our skin and shapes and softness and roughness and smoothness or hairiness and experience ourselves. Allowing our senses to be filled with different textures and lights and smells and sounds is healthy for our brains!

I challenge you to give these things a shot over the weekend:

  1. Body Scan Meditation - Try a full body scan mediation like this one from The Honest Guys!  There are hundreds of guided full body scans on Youtube, so find the one that works for you. A full body scan lets you listen to the body in a mindful way. You can identify tension, stress, and personal needs by focusing on one body part at a time.
  2. Self Massage - Touch your body with healing intent by engaging in some self-massage! Here are some techniques from Back Authority. 
  3. Delight Your Senses - Do you have a favourite smell? A favourite shirt? A favourite blanket? A favourite song? A favourite taste? Gather all of your favourite sensory experiences and indulge in a session of relaxation and positive vibes.

After you try one or ALL of these ideas, spend some time answering the following questions:

  • What did I expect from my experience?
  • What surprised me about what I felt during this experience?
  • Did I learn anything new about my body or emotions?
  • Is this something I could do on a regular basis for myself?
  • Did this make me feel good?

If you tried any of these strategies before you masturbated...

  • Did I feel like my masturbation session was enhanced by indulging the senses or tuning into my body beforehand?
  • Did any of my sensual experiences transfer into my sexual needs?
  • Do I feel positive about my body and sensual self after this experience?

 

The Goal of The Sex & Sensuality Challenge

By the end of our time together, you will hopefully have a more positive view of your sexual and sensual self and  will have opened your mind to new experiences! This challenge is designed to give you tools to reprogram your brain to embrace your sensuality.

Day 1 - Fake it until you make it.

Day 5 - Own your body.

Day 8 - Touch your body.

 

 

Sex & Sensuality Self Care Challenge – Day 5

 

Own your body.

When I say "own", I mean make it yours. Be familiar with it. Value it. It is your most important possession. Your body is the door through which joy and pleasure enter your life. To own your body is to own your own pleasure.

My body is not perfect. My body feels pain and suffers. My body does not look the way I wish it would look. But my body is a good body, because it is my body. It is the only one I will ever have, regardless of it's composition.

I do the following for own my body every day:

  1.  Self care is not a trend, it is how I live my life. Nourishing and moving and bathing and dressing and resting my body are essential to feeling in touch with who I am and who I want to be! Self care is not "reactive" or "coping". Self care is not an all-day TV binge. Self care is made up of every thing I do to keep my body going and feeling the best it can. My brain is part of my body.
  2. Being responsible for my emotions, actions, and needs. No one can read my mind. All of my emotions are valid whether they are based in rationality or reality or not. My actions, however, should be fueled by my heart and compassion. I have control over how I respond and act. If I need emotional or physical affection, it is my responsibility to ask for these things. Eradicating passive aggression, understanding that partners (be they sexual, romantic, or play) have no responsibility to fulfill me, and embracing consent were all necessary to grant me sexual freedom. I fulfill me, and partners can consent to join me on that journey. Ditching the expectation that someone has to please me was the first step toward pleasing myself.
  3. Loving my flaws and my fierceness. Did I mention my body is not perfect? But my body IS perfect. It is a perfect system of RIGHT NOW. I accept how my body is right now, that I can take steps to change it or improve it if I choose to! I also accept that there are things I may never do, may never experience, may never be. My body is not perfect for all things or all people. That is okay. It doesn't have to be. My body is me, and I am enough!

Own Your Pleasure by Owning Your Body

In a journal, an e-mail to yourself, or mentally... answer these questions as you move forward with the Sex & Sensuality Challenge:

  • How do I care for my body, mind, and spirit every hour of the day?
  • Do I cope or am I proactive?
  • Do I know my sexual and emotional needs?
  • Do I voice my sexual and emotional needs?
  • Am I taking responsibility for my emotions and actions?
  • What does it mean to be fulfilled?
  • What does sensuality mean to me?
  • Am I chasing the future or embracing the now?
  • What do I love about my body and mind?
  • How does my body serve me?
  • Do I accept my body? If yes, why? If no, why not?

Try to keep your answers in a place you can refer back to. Did you have any "I don't know" answers?

The Goal of The Sex & Sensuality Challenge

By the end of our time together, you will hopefully have a more positive view of your sexual and sensual self and  will have opened your mind to new experiences! This challenge is designed to give you tools to reprogram your brain to embrace your sensuality.

 

 

Sex & Sensuality Self Care Challenge – Day 1

Fake It Until You Make It.

Feeling sexy, feeling sensual, loving your body, and loving yourself may not come naturally. Do you experience negative self talk? Do you question whether others will find you attractive? Do you avoid sexual or sensual topics because you struggle with your comfort level in those areas?

Society teaches us that our sexual selves are for someone else... that our appearance and our charm and our likability are related to how marketable we are for partners. But this simply isn't true! If you like who you are and feel confident in yourself, you won't care how other people view your body and mind. Their opinions don't matter!

To jump start the Sex & Sensuality Self Care Challenge, I challenge you to fake it until you make it! Tell yourself your body is sexy! Tell yourself you are charming! Spend some time walking around naked (or in your undies) today and listening to a song that makes you feel like a badass god or goddess! If negative thoughts about your body creep in, immediately list three things you like about yourself!

For example:

"I like my eyes." "I am a good cook." "I am great at research!"

The Goal of The Sex & Sensuality Challenge

By the end of our time together, you will hopefully have a more positive view of your sexual and sensual self and  will have opened your mind to new experiences! This challenge is designed to give you tools to reprogram your brain to embrace your sensuality.

 

 

Madam C’s Holiday Giveaway!

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Posted by Alchemy Underground on Thursday, December 7, 2017

WIN 2 TICKETS to the Hawkins Winter Ball 1984 on Friday, 12/15 at 9 PM!

About the Event: 

The Canal Club, Richmond VA

21+ // 9PM
special ticketed event ~ Tickets onsale Thursday, November 24th
Costumes & Cosplay are Encouraged & Rewarded
sounds by:
+ CAM DINUNZIO (Denali, RVA 4 ever)
+ ANT BOOGIE (Trapped in the UpsideDown)
+ DAMION CHAMP (moves crowds w their mind)

what to wear:
1984 junior prom attire ~ Hawkins Snow Ball will be in full effect OR your favorite "Stranger Things" characters

Check out the Facebook Event!

The Femdom Happy Hour 12/13, Richmond, Virginia

Madam C welcomes all female-identifying tops, sadists, Dom/mes, and more to network, socialize, and spend time with friends on December 13th, 2017!

Enjoy the atmosphere at Richmond's Goth/Industrial/Fetish club, Fallout... and their delicious selection of food and beverages.

This rotating social hour happens once monthly to promote kinship between strong, dominant women in the BDSM community and allow a space for sharing and support alike.